I grew up in a classic first-generation Chinese-American household where I was expected to be the perfect daughter, cousin, friend, student, sports player, family chef, and more. My parents’ mental model of life was that there are a finite number of winners. If you missed a quiz question, then you failed. Life was not a grading scale from A to F — only …
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